What Red Flags should Catholics be looking out for in relationships? | Fr. Joseph-Anthony Kress & Fr. Patrick Briscoe
March 19, 2026
Understanding Red Flags in a Relationship
In this episode of Godsplaining, Fr. Joseph-Anthony and Fr. Patrick explore what red flags Catholics should be attentive to in dating and relationships, emphasizing that relationships should be rooted in truth, virtue, and a clear orientation toward marriage rather than just emotional chemistry or convenience. They explain that while attraction plays a role, it is not sufficient for a healthy relationship, and they highlight warning signs such as a lack of seriousness about faith, poor communication, dishonesty, patterns of selfishness or manipulation, disregard for moral teachings like chastity, and misalignment in life goals or vision for the future. The discussion encourages Catholics to approach dating with intentionality and discernment, recognizing that ignoring red flags or hoping someone will change can lead to deeper problems, and ultimately calls listeners to seek relationships marked by mutual sacrifice, shared values, and a common pursuit of holiness.
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What is the main focus of this episode?
The episode explains how to identify red flags in dating relationships, especially from a Catholic perspective rooted in virtue and discernment.
Frequently Asked Questions
What are some major red flags in a relationship?
Key red flags include lack of faith, poor communication, dishonesty, emotional manipulation, and misaligned values about marriage and family.
Why is shared faith important in a relationship?
Because faith shapes values, decisions, and life direction—a mismatch here can create deep and lasting conflict.
Can people change over time in a relationship?
Growth is possible, but the friars caution against dating based on potential rather than the person as they currently are.